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Yes. You act like it's a hard question to answer.

If my wife hates me for not taking blood money, I have failed to find a compatible life partner.

If my children hate me for it, I have failed to educate them about morality.

Whatever kind of ill will falls my way as a result of sticking to my guns and valuing the herd over the individual, I will take it with a smile. Because I can sleep at night knowing that I didn't decide that my own petty little problems are more important than the problems faced by people living under dictatorship.

Love can be an incredibly powerful thing. Love can be an incredibly selfish thing. Love can bring peace to all who accept it. Love can be the spark that leads to war. It is neither purely a good or evil thing. It cannot be used as an excuse for supporting the systematic degradation of human rights. That is love being selfish. Because it's not about the wives and children of the world, it is about your wife and your children.



I love all you write. I'm this close to pretending to disagree just to make you argue more :)

> If I had a friend and loved him because of the benefits which this brought me and because of getting my own way, then it would not be my friend that I loved but myself. I should love my friend on account of his own goodness and virtues and account of all that he is in himself. Only if I love my friend in this way do I love him properly.

-- Meister Eckhart

> If a person loves only one other person and is indifferent to all others, his love is not love but a symbiotic attachment, or an enlarged egotism. Yet most people believe that love is constituted by the object, not by the faculty. In fact, they even believe that it is proof of the intensity of their love when they do not love anybody except the "loved" person. [..] Because one does not see that love is an activity, a power of the soul, one believes that all that is necessary to find is the right object - and that everything goes by itself afterward. This attitude can be compared to that of the man who wants to paint but who, instead of learning the art, claims that he just has to wait for the right object - and that he will paint beautifully when he finds it.

-- Erich Fromm, "The Art of Loving" (1956)


Thank you for your kind words. To me that is a compliment of the highest order.

I will read the Mark Twain story you referenced in the other post tonight, and will share my thoughts with you on it later.

It seems we both see the forest for the trees with this issue, and I appreciate the quotes you've left me. They've given me something to chew on.




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